Why do we end up regretting the things we didn’t do? Because in that particular time, those things seem insignificant, unimportant, nonurgent and we justified them to ourselves, one way or another.

At the present time, there probably is a thing or two that seem just as unimportant that, if you bother to put some energy to it, will turn out to be a thank-Goodness-I-did-that.

The problem is, however, even if you are in a place where you can be honest with yourself, preserving that is not an easy task. In addition to that, there is such thing as being able to be honest with yourself in one area or many areas while completely avoiding this one critical area. But even if that’s the case, should that be an excuse?

The longer you delay facing your fear, the more distorted your thinking becomes. And it’s not the initial panic or fear that makes things overly complicated, it’s just the fear made big. This is pretty obvious. Things that we now think of as linear are not, as we come to find out every now and then. On top of that, in most cases, you just discover that, with enough trial-and-error, you are capable of rising to that bar. And what proceeds? “Oh, I should’ve known that.” In truth, though, there was no possible way to have known, given the circumstances. But having the willingness to face whatever you need to face, well, that’s what’s called a game-changer.

Because all the noise about how the other party is better off triggers zero-sum thinking, often the benefits we receive fade into the background like they’re nothing. This feeling of defeat gets hold of us. Truthfully, we might have received fewer benefits from a certain situation, which is nothing to be proud of, neither does it make you a person with higher moral values. This might mean that you need to improve your negotiation skills and stand your ground next time. Being pushed around is not a desirable outcome, after all.

However, less benefit still does not mean it’s nothing. You don’t need to trick yourself into believing in either side. Seeing all this in a realistic light is ideal, indeed.

An unsurprising fact is that we constantly see, remember and expect the negative. We see the negative because we need to be ready if and when a threat manifests itself. To avoid what happened in the future, we remember the negative experiences. …

Things that cannot satisfy the soul also tend to take away lots of energy because of the reaction they give rise to. This is especially true for the objects that were initially thought of as a bridge between happiness and one’s self. Expectation’s high, and delivery is not only low, but can never meet that expectation.

But we acquire things for various reasons. FOMO is a big one. We make our fair share of purchasing decisions according to that.

All this to say that, if emotions drive our decisions when it comes to purchasing, it just means that we need to try to be more conscious. Being able to analyze yourself is crucial to one’s being, so it’s worth the trouble of getting to know yourself.

Apart from resentment coming alive, doing things only out of obligation has another effect, and that’s them becoming a lifestyle. It will make the resentment grow further and conflicts arise more often. This is also an economic issue. Since the scarce resources are time and energy in this case, it pays to put importance on them because they are valuable to every human. It should be kept in mind that, even though leaving things the way they are might be a way to keep everything together, there might be alternatives that may be just as good or even better. And the difference between them might be that the other option has a chance of being the answer to many questions.

In the perfect world, we’d be excited about everything we do all the time. But last time I checked, the world we live in is far from perfect. You don’t get to be excited all the time. You might experience it, but it would be seasonal at best. It’s not easy to put a finger on where that excitement came from, but it’s likely a mixture of effort and God’s blessing. Whatever it is, you appreciate the fuck out of everything.

Other times, the sunshine just won’t show up. You’ll pour your blood, sweat and tears into something. You’ll keep grinding and grinding. But mud would be the only thing that’s in front of you. Every. Single. Time. After some time, you’ll come to decide that chasing excitement directly is not doing it. You’re better off putting your focus on something else. And that something else needs to go deeper.

Setbacks of different kinds occur several times every year. The question, therefore, is not “How can I avoid it?” but “How can I get back on my feet as soon as possible?” Because you’ll start to lose your perspective along with time, the biggest concern should be to make it in the shortest time frame possible, without leaving it half-done.

Certain things take longer to recover from because of their intensity and importance, like the death of a loved one. These are the situations where you are at loss for words, and they take time. But some things cripple us in the end because we didn’t deal with them on time. That’s why knowledge of self is important. You gotta know your limitations. And you gotta know how to deal with them before they come to get you.

It is with great displeasure we receive discomfort. Discomfort is essentially what we ask for when we say we want to grow or even stay in our current situation. To grow, we need exposure to different things. To keep the mind sharp and body healthy, experiencing discomfort is necessary. However, for some reason, we still are in low spirits when in reality we should be thankful we get these opportunities. It’s not very common that we immediately get the tools we need when we are first starting up.

But in this case, certain tools are given to you, literally. And the benefits outweigh the costs. So, one should watch how he/she react to things.

Many of those who consider themselves pious do so because they have slightly more religious knowledge from their neighbor. It’s that simple, people just compare themselves to the next person and that’s it, identity is formed, true or not. Now, anybody could tell you that knowledge not translated into action…

Decnt

trying to learn how to think through writing

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